Are You Thinking About Divorce? First You Should Ask Yourself THESE 11 Questions

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Divorce is one of the most difficult things to go through in life. The illusion of “happily ever after” disappears. You become stressed, exhausted, and depressed. Your life changes completely. That’s why, if you’re considering divorce, these are the questions that, according to experts, you should ask yourself before making a decision.

1. Have you expressed what’s bothering you about the relationship?

Communication is essential. You must honestly express what you feel. Kindly ask your partner to listen to you carefully, and then, he or she will have the chance to express their point of view.


2. Have you clearly defined the roles each person has in the relationship?

You both must decide what roles each one will take on and how to behave. You can’t rely on stereotypes like “the duties of a wife or husband”. You both must decide how you’ll behave, what roles you’ll take on, and what the limits are .


3. How would you save the marriage?

It’s advisable that you and your partner write a separate list of things that you think could save your marriage. Then, share your lists with each other.


4. Would you be happier without your partner?

Try to balance the good and the bad. Reflect deeply on whether the good can make up for the bad.


5. Do you still love him/her?


This is a very delicate question, because, unfortunately, love isn’t all you need to save a relationship.


6. What are your main fears, if you decide to divorce?

Many people are scared to be alone or of not finding love again. Think carefully, if you’re afraid of anything that may happen after divorce.


7. Do you think divorce will ruin your image or self esteem?

If you’re at a point, where you’re considering ending your marriage, you may feel like a failure and take things personally. A successful marriage takes two. Think about the future and not about the past.


8. How to explain divorce to your children and how to deal with the situation later on? (In case, you have children).

This is particularly difficult. You’ll both always be parents to your kids. Think about how to communicate your decision to your kids and what would be the best way to deal with it, if it did happen. Remember that your children aren’t an excuse to stay in an unhappy marriage.


9. How would you deal with the financial problems that can arise following a divorce?


Save money, because you may face financial difficulties.


10. Have you thought about how you would deal with everyday tasks that your partner took care of?

Things as simple as going to the supermarket, paying the bills, going to school meetings. Often we forget those little things.


11. What should you do to avoid committing the same mistakes in the future?

Marital problems don’t come from one side only. Both partners are responsible. Think about how you may have contributed to the relationship’s failure. Examine your behavior, reflect, and remember your mistakes to stop yourself from making them in the future.