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ENGLISH => GENERAL => Topic started by: Virtual Reality on July 03, 2012, 03:02:25 PM
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Our daily life always brings a mixture of events and sweet memories. We meet a lot of people and make new friends. Some of them become our very close ones with whom we share our problems and happiness. We spend such a huge lot of time with them that some times we find it difficult to manage our daily affairs without them. Something in them attracts us so much that we leave our house just to meet them and not to fulfill our left over works and duties. And one day will come when our friends will leave us and go far away. We feel one of our hands has been cut off from our body. Nothing interests us. We become very moody and unpredictable. People find a great difference in our personality. Everything looks dull. Everything looks gloomy…
This is the state of many of the present youth. They feel friends are the only “good” thing that life gives us. Yes, friends are there for caring and sharing. But let’s not think that all that you have to do in life is to care and share. There are lot of duties and responsibilities bestowed on you. You have to think about the future.
These are the common suggestions given by the elders and many learned people. Well, why not take it this way? You like a person a lot. you like him/her either because you are very close to him/her, or you have heard a lot about that person’s character, or that person has talked with you consolingly and positively when you were really troubled. Well this liking can be of three types.
One – liking for a long-lasting friendship
Two – liking for a long-lasting love and togetherness
Three – liking out of a simple respect for that person.
Now, once your heart starts this liking issue, you feel as though some snail like organisms are moving in your stomach when ever that person comes and talks with you. You feel very uncomfortable while talking with him/her. This sensation is usually experienced when that person is a kind of stranger to you, or your dignified reserved senior, or a well approachable understanding personality. If you feel like this with your own friends then there is surely some serious problem with you and you better go and take rest!
Such a sensation occurs because you try your best to keep up a good reputation in front of that person. A kind of good impression. This slowly becomes one of your aims. Where ever you go you search for that person. Once you spot them, you go running to that person to talk, but stop half way, and start thinking of what to talk. By the time you decide, either that person comes to you and talks something, or that person just leaves the place without considering your presence. You then start thinking about what happened. You torture yourself thinking why that person never talked with you, did not reply your question “properly”, or never bothered to even look at you. While that person, (poor person) unaware of your pathetic situation because of him/her, coolly continues with his/her work and comes up in his/her life. While you sit where you are simply admiring their achievements. Don’t you think this is very rude and unacceptable?
It is your life. It is your world. You can mould it into anything you want. You can either spoil it or make it admirable. Why waste your life admiring someone else? Why not be such a person whom others can admire and make you a role model? Alright, you do admire a person, and you are totally obsessed with that person, what next? Yes, ask yourself- “what next?” The next step should be to act accordingly. Act in the way your role model behaves. Take him as an example. Take him as a positive boost up and make up your mind to show him/her your talents and achievements. That should be the attitude. That should be your mentality.
Keep going. Never stop in between. Past is past. Forget it. Today is a new day, and a new chance to do something new. If you have been gloomy and dull all these days, change now. This is the time. Say yourself you are a new person from this moment, from this day. Everyone knows water is a universal element. There is one more thing I would like to add to the list: - mistakes. Remember, you are not the only one who has committed a mistake. Even the person you admire commits mistakes. Do not be ashamed of it. The best attitude is to accept our mistakes and correct ourselves and continue our work.
There are many who get so very influenced by some people that they forget to be themselves. There is no individuality. No choice of their own. If you are strong, if you can keep your heads when all other’s is rotating, if you can stick to your principles then no bad omen can touch you, no bad friends can influences you. When asked for some individual decision, let the decision be yours and not a developed version of someone else’s.
Friends do form a very important part in your life. But let’s not make them our life. Remember, in the road to your success, there are only two objects in it: - YOU AND YOUR GOAL. Friends are the passer-bys. That does not mean that I am actually giving no value to friendship. We just have to understand that, when it comes to working for goals, let’s not make our friends one of the reasons for not achieving it. Everyone has their specified roles to play. Our parents, teachers, and seniors are our well-wishers and can guide us to the right direction for our goal. Our friends play the boosting effects. They are the “josh-party” of our life. They will come and go. Of course we will feel really bad when our good friend leaves us and goes on transfer, or misunderstands us, or simply loses contact. If this is troubling you, the best remedy is to “TALK”. Just go and talk out and solve the problem. Keeping it in your heart will in fact torture you and will make it really hard to concentrate. Bring out everything that is in your heart.
This is the same case when it comes to handling situations like ‘being mad about someone’. At least your friends will stay in touch and will understand you. But feeling for someone who doesn't know you is pitiable. So, do admire a person, but also behave in the same way that person behaves. At least you are not wasting your time, and you are learning something. However, remember, “You are a unique special creation of god, worth far more than any earthly treasure.” Value your life it comes only once.
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Hope i will finish reading dis soOn...:P
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Very True... 8)
"It is your life. It is your world. You can mould it into anything you want"
"Keep going. Never stop in between. Past is past. Forget it. Today is a new day, and a new chance to do something new"
“You are a unique special creation of god, worth far more than any earthly treasure.” Value your life it comes only once. :)
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But is it always true for everyone? It is how people perceive things from their point of view, and based on their mindset. If only everyone could think similar in certain aspects, life would be surely a whole lot easier to rebuild even if it is shattered, it's never too late to start all over again, and many people don't realize that.... sad sometimes....
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